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    (Read) [Talking to Strangers What We Should Know About the People We Don’t Know] I was trying to work through my thoughts on this book when Goodreads did an interview with Malcolm Gladwell and this one thing he said just made everything clear for me “I've never been a writer who's looked to persuade his readers; I'm inter

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    free read Talking to Strangers What We Should Know About the People We Don’t Know Malcolm Gladwell ¾ 9 free read (Read) [Talking to Strangers What We Should Know About the People We Don’t Know] TW detailed descriptions of rape and pedophiliaIf it were possible to give a book negative stars this would be a 10 for meMalcolm Gladwell is incredibly influential From books to podcasts to TED talks he seems to be everywhere and his story based approach reaches a large number of people who don't uestion his credentials as a journalist with no scientific training who writes about science I enjoyed Blink and O

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    free read Talking to Strangers What We Should Know About the People We Don’t Know Malcolm Gladwell ¾ 9 free read (Read) [Talking to Strangers What We Should Know About the People We Don’t Know] Never Trust a Blood Relative Talking to Strangers is an elaboration of a simple trivial? idea It’s very difficult to tell when peo

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    (Read) [Talking to Strangers What We Should Know About the People We Don’t Know] UPDATE 92319I have now changed this to one star The I read about this and other pseudo psych crap he pushesno no no The enjoyment of some parts of the book does not outweigh the total garbage of parts of it Two examples are linked below with a particularly shocking tidbit from one most important part of the first link Gladwell You know I have that chapter on Jerry Sandusky in my book and it’s all about how I feel the leadersh

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    free read Talking to Strangers What We Should Know About the People We Don’t Know (Read) [Talking to Strangers What We Should Know About the People We Don’t Know] download · E-book, or Kindle E-pub ¾ Malcolm Gladwell Malcolm Gladwell is viewed as a hugely influential writer and I was eagerly anticipating reading this my first taste of his work a body of his thinking on how we the people are extraordinarily gullible when it comes to strangers all too easily taken in by them in our general eagerness to trust rather than be cautious He gives a raft of well known examples from history such as Neville Chamberlain being all to willing to

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    (Read) [Talking to Strangers What We Should Know About the People We Don’t Know] download · E-book, or Kindle E-pub ¾ Malcolm Gladwell 922019 I'm knocking this down to two stars Gladwell's really bad takes on things like race and sexual assault just don't deserve an okay ratingWow does this book ever suffer from a severe case of foot in mouth disease I almost didn’t make it past the introduction In my pre publication copy Gladwell writes “The Sandra Bland case came in t

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    download · E-book, or Kindle E-pub ¾ Malcolm Gladwell (Read) [Talking to Strangers What We Should Know About the People We Don’t Know] I DNF'd this book after reading too many cringey statements from Gladwell He wants to categorize a whole range of evils f

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    free read Talking to Strangers What We Should Know About the People We Don’t Know (Read) [Talking to Strangers What We Should Know About the People We Don’t Know] I always feel lucky when I get to read a book before its official publication date A fascinating accessible examination of the miscommunications that can arise when we talk to strangers We're going to interview Malcolm Gladwell for the Happie

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review Talking to Strangers What We Should Know About the People We Don’t Know ↠ E-book, or Kindle E-pub The trial of Amanda Knox and the suicide of Sylvia Plath you hear directly from many of the players in these real life tragedies There's even a theme song Janelle Monae's Hell You TalmboutSomething is very wrong Gladwell argues with the tools and strategies we use to make sense of people we don't know And because we don't know how to talk to strangers we are inviting conflict and misunderstanding in ways that have a profound effect on our lives and our worl. If this had just been stories about spies and the meeting between Hern n Cort s and Montezuma or whatever I would have rated it five stars There s no uestion that Malcolm Gladwell is a good storyteller I just wish that he would leave it at that and stop trying to shoe horn a bunch of tall tales into some sort of coherent statement about the state of the world I m not a scientist but I think that I know science when I see it I ain t seeing it here The death of Sandra Bland is what happens when a society does not know how to talk to strangers This is the stupidest thing I ve heard concerning this tragedy This was also the whole point of this book and Galdwell s facile explanation is completely without meritThe cop was uite simply a ginormous fucking asshole We have it all on film for Christ s sake He just couldn t let it go that this black woman wasn t bowing down to him and had the temerity to light up a cigarette in his majestic presence He pulled her over as he states for failing to signal a lane change when he pulled behind her Are you kidding me What kind of cop does thatBrian Encinia OK ma am Pause You OKBland I m waiting on you This is your job I m waiting on you When re you going to let me go Encinia I don t know you seem very really irritatedBland I am I really am I feel like it s crap what I m getting a ticket for I was getting out of your way You were speeding up tailing meso yeah I m a little irritatedBrian Encinia Are you done Are you done What a total asshole There is absolutely no uestion that his tone was completely nasty just listen to the video He asked her if she was OK What does he expect her to say Thank you for pulling me over and fucking with me for no reason whatsoever This was that point when it went from a bullshit traffic stop to something sinister on his part where he had something to prove to himself Unfortunately it came at the expense of another human being who was simply trying to make it through the dayI wish that Sandra Bland had asked him Is this why you became a cop To hassle people for no good reason She was so incredibly reasonable and the cop was just a huge asshole End of story There are no two sides to this He is unfit for the job He either hates black people or he just hates people Either way he doesn t deserve the public trust that is necessary to be a policemanThis brings up the entire nature of police work Like most other American kids I grew up on a steady diet of TV and movies in which the heroes were cops yet I never consider being a policeman for even a split second Why Probably because I just never felt the need to have power over anyone else I never felt that I had something to prove We need to test police recruits for this tendency and weed them out if they have a chip on their shoulder like Brian Encinia He should definitely not be a policeman He is a terrible human being especially after the fact when he testified that he felt his life was in dangerHuman beings are sometimes or oftentimes fooled by a load of shit some stranger passes off on them Gladwell is now infamous for cherry picking examples that prove his point while ignoring volumes that tell of a different outcome People are often wrong about the intentions of strangers they talk toexcept when they are rightIn all of his ramblings about the CIA the only conclusion we should come to is that the US should just stop spying and try being straightforward and open as a nation just to see where that gets us Spying has produced so little benefit especially when you consider how much money we ve poured into that black hole OK we got Bin Laden but how much did it cost us to hunt down and assassinate one hairy old religious fanatic Imagine instead if we had used all of that money to build schools and hospitals around the world thus building goodwill I think goodwill trumps some dead fanatic The issue with spies is not that there is something brilliant about them It is that there is something wrong with us I couldn t disagree with this I would turn this thought on its head The issue with spies is not that there is something brilliant about them It is that there is something wrong with them Of course the Soviets East Germans and Cubans beat the US in spy craft over the course of decades because they are a people hatched in duplicitous dictatorships where obfuscation and deceit are reuired for survival This is precisely why we should have never tried to battle them in this realm We should have gone the route of honesty and full disclosureAs a nation would we rather excel at deception or honesty Why are we so bad at detecting lies This is a stupid meaningless uestion that makes about as much sense as asking why we are so bad at predicting the outcome of a sporting event You win some you lose someWith that said if your job is to ferret out double agents in an intelligence organization and you interview someone you suspect and then let them off the hook you suck to put it mildlyGladwell extrapolates some incredibly outrageous outcomes from his little modern fairy talesI had to skip over almost the entire section on the Penn State pedophile story So you are a grown man in a locker room You see another man having sex with a child in plain sight and you run away without doing anything What a bunch of cowards we are The Mcueary guy ran upstairs to call his parents What I would have done had I been in that same situation before running upstairs to call my parents would have been to beat that pedo half to death That would have been a better story to tell mom and dad than to say that I had witnessed a child rape and did fuck all about it I couldn t live with that level of cowardiceI had to skip over Chapter Six because it deals with the TV show Friends which makes me physically illToo Good Just for the CommentsGoodreads User James wrote Malcolm Gladwell professional ultracrepidarian I thought this was brilliant at least I did after I looked up the word As somewhat of a professional linguist I sought out the roots of the word and found probably the most fascinating origin story of any word I ve ever looked upUltracrepidarian1 one who is presumptuous and offers advice or opinions beyond one s sphere of knowledge2 an insufferable gas bag at least in Gladwell s caseETYMOLOGYFrom Latin ultra beyond crepidarius shoemaker from crepida sandal Earliest documented use 1819NOTESThe story goes that in ancient Greece there was a renowned painter named Apelles who used to display his paintings and hide behind them to listen to the comments Once a cobbler pointed out that the sole of the shoe was not painted correctly Apelles fixed it and encouraged by this the cobbler began offering comments about other parts of the painting At this point the painter cut him off with Ne sutor ultra crepidam meaning Shoemaker not above the sandal or one should stick to one s area of expertiseAddition The story was told by the Roman writer Pliny the Elder hence Latin

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review Talking to Strangers What We Should Know About the People We Don’t Know ↠ E-book, or Kindle E-pub Malcolm Gladwell host of the podcast Revisionist History and author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Outliers offers a powerful examination of our interactions with strangers and why they often go wrongHow did Fidel Castro fool the CIA for a generation Why did Neville Chamberlain think he could trust Adolf Hitler Why are campus sexual assaults on the rise Do television sitcoms teach us something about the way we relate to each other that isn't trueWhile t. TW detailed descriptions of rape and pedophiliaIf it were possible to give a book negative stars this would be a 10 for meMalcolm Gladwell is incredibly influential From books to podcasts to TED talks he seems to be everywhere and his story based approach reaches a large number of people who don t uestion his credentials as a journalist with no scientific training who writes about science I enjoyed Blink and Outliers despite the often dodgy claims Gladwell makes based on studies that are small poorly designed andor not replicable The man does know how to create an engaging narrative and create aha moments that excite the reader And after all he admits he isn t a scientist but instead a storyteller who uses research to augment the stories who places the stories in the lead and the science in a supporting role rather than the other way aroundOkay I hear you shrugging So what Well in Talking to Strangers Gladwell brings his folksy approach and tendency to present his opinions as truth to a painful and horrifying subject sexual abuse The book explores our inability to tell when people are lying especially when they are confident and lack obvious tells eg shifty eyes covered mouth Gladwell suggests most people default to truth when interacting with strangers and that considerable evidence is needed before we believe someone is lying Moreover he feels this approach is vital to our social compact By contrast he believes approaching people with distrust as a default such as police officers who see every person as a potential suspect would make normal functioning impossible In making his case Gladwell describes two cases of serial pedophiles who operated for decades before being caught Larry Nassar the doctor who molested young female gymnasts in his care often in the presence of their parents and Jerry Sandusky the coach who sodomized young boys in his sports programs and foster care Reading these stories which described how the young victims were raped and assaulted in page after page of excruciating detail made me want to scrub my brain with bleach And then we get to Gladwell s conclusion that our inability to detect lies means that we should not be too harsh in judging the various adults who failed to protect children who were being sexually assaulted Here s how he puts it those victimized by default to truth deserve our sympathy not our censureTo clarify the victims in this sentence are not the children who were raped but the adults parents teachers employers of pedophiles who ignored warning signs and suspicious behavior for years People who buried evidence People who dismissed the discomfort expressed by the children who lacked the vocabulary to explain the horror of being violated by an adult in a position of trustGraham Spanier the former Penn President was told by one of his own employees that Sandusky was seen in the shower with a young boy at night in deserted gym facilities with his body right up against the child He did not go to the police He did not call Child Services He accepted the suggestion from another staff member that Sandusky was just horsing around and let the matter drop Gladwell has a lot of sympathy for Spanier stating people liked Grahman Spanier It s why he had such a brilliant career It s why you and I would want to work for him We want Graham Spanier as our President We think we want our guardians to be alert to every suspicion We blame them when they default to truthwithout stopping to consider the conseuences of those actions Actually no I don t want Spanier as my university President Or anywhere except in a prison cell Nor do I think any conseuences could be worse than a society that allows children to be abused A little distrust or a trust but verify approach is a good thing when the vulnerable are involvedGladwell also spends uite a bit of time throwing doubt on the stories of the boys victimized by Sandusky noting contradictions and inconsistencies Gladwell is not a trained psychologist psychiatrist or a trauma abuse counselor He has zero experience in dealing with the victims of sexual abuse Contradictory stories are common in cases of child molestation as the victims often try to repress or justify their abuse Gladwell did not personally know any of the children involved It s unclear if he knows anyone who has suffered from sexual abuse Yet he feels it is appropriate to suggest that the victims were lying or wrong and that Spanier was mistreated for being too trusting Later in the book he defends rapists including Brock Turner In case the name rings a bell that was the frat guy who undressed fingered and tried to rape an unconscious woman behind a dumpster only to be scared off by two other students Gladwell feels that alcohol and mixed signals are mainly responsible for rape Brock s victim calls for sensitively training on college campuses to help men learn to respect women and says that while heavy drinking was a factor in what happened it was not the reason for her rape Her powerful open letter to the court made me cry Yet Gladwell disagrees with her assessment of why the rape happened statingBrock Turner was asked to do something of crucial importance that night to make sense of a stranger s desires and motivations That is a hard task for all of us under the best circumstances Asking a drunk and immature nineteen year old to do that in the hyper sexualized chaos of a frat party is an invitation to disasterNot raping someone is a hard task Gladwell acknowledges harm was done but he also asks whether the victim flirted with Brock whether she struggled or whether she stumbled outside willingly I agree alcohol clouds judgement and have no problem limiting it as part of a strategy to address assault on campus But a good man doesn t rape a women regardless of how much he has been drinking At best limiting alcohol might deter monsters like Brock by getting them to think about the possible conseuences of their actions eg jailReading this book was like wading through a sewer The fact that someone with Gladwell s influence is using his platform to excuse people complicit in sexual assault is disgusting I will certainly never read anything by Gladwell againFor on Gladwell s misrepresentation of science on him as an apologist for abusers

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review Talking to Strangers What We Should Know About the People We Don’t Know ↠ E-book, or Kindle E-pub Ackling these uestions Malcolm Gladwell was not solely writing a book for the page He was also producing for the ear In the audiobook version of Talking to Strangers you'll hear the voices of people he interviewed scientists criminologists military psychologists Court transcripts are brought to life with re enactments You actually hear the contentious arrest of Sandra Bland by the side of the road in Texas As Gladwell revisits the deceptions of Bernie Madoff. Never Trust a Blood Relative Talking to Strangers is an elaboration of a simple trivial idea It s very difficult to tell when people are lying According to Timothy Levine the academic psychologist on whom Gladwell relies for his basic argument the presumption that people tell the truth is almost universal a few Holy Fools and I suppose Judge Judy excepted Levine calls this his Truth Default Theory Gladwell applies it entertainingly if rather repetitively to cases of duplicity ranging from double agents in government agencies to international financial fraudThe interesting part of Gladwell s thesis is that we can t be trained out of our predisposition to believe what credible people that is folk who exhibit facial traits and body language which conform to cultural conventions have to say Police judges regulatory officials even counter espionage experts have eually poor records for detecting falsehood compared to the rest of us it also works the other way round truth telling appears as lying if accompanied by mis matched behavioural signals We are genetically programmed to be dupes I suspect sex as the evolutionary motive And there is no reliable technology that does any better The implication for me is that the anyone is familiar with expected conventional behavioural responses and can perform these as needed the credible they will be Not a terribly innovative conclusion admittedly but it does suggest that Gladwell has the wrong end of the authenticity stick We may have to worry about strangers being honest but the real danger is the mendacity of those closest to us those who know what we find credible namely intimate family members not strangersThere s another issue as well It s clear that most 0f us lie to ourselves from time to time that is we conveniently and selectively recall events which confirm our self rationalising narratives We cannot observe our own physical behaviour to determine the extent of mismatch Nor would it make any difference if we could since we may actually believe our own press as it were I know academics and business people who act this way as a matter of routine It s part of their strategy for success They speak and write with total conviction about things they really know nothing about One of these may be the president of the United States Who knows perhaps even Gladwell is amongst these experts at self delusion and is simply scamming the rest of us with complete sincerityOr am I merely projecting a sort of cynicism about Gladwell s slick rapportage Possibly But he does seem to have a somewhat murky past as a defender of several dodgy industries like tobacco and pharmaceuticals See Presumably he was uite handy at spinning credible publicity out of otherwise damaging facts Transparency Gladwell says is a myth an idea we ve picked up from watching too much television and reading too many novels One wonders to what degree his book might be an instance of the phenomenon he is describingOh and as an aside the attribution of the death of a black student in the custody of a Texas jail to an escalating miscommunication between strangers verges on the obscene His use of this example to book end his narrative and his references to it as a recurring theme suggest some serious judgmental deficiencies I don t feel myself defaulting to truth or Gladwell s purported truth in the leastPostscript 18Sept19 it appears that Gladwell s bubble is bursting

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  • Talking to Strangers What We Should Know About the People We Don’t Know
  • Malcolm Gladwell
  • English
  • 12 February 2019
  • 9780316478526